Wednesday, January 25, 2012

A trap we fall for....

.....so easy.
During the early days of my career i was so naive of everything and everyone around. Whatever people used to tell me i would believe them blindly without thinking at least once about it. I still remember the old innocent childish games I used to play with my childhood friends, but I never knew that people play games at work as well which in no way were like the sweet, impeccant games i had experienced being a child. I grew up with the assumption that hardwork and goodness has always its place no matter what, but i learnt a complete new theory of  how the world operates when i began my career and it changed my virtuous perspective. Life, I led, beofre seemed just so perfect with the pages of all sweet memories than the life, with a fake smile, i started. It was then i realised, how people could be so mean in order to knock off their selfish motives and would do anything to survive. Money is the reason for our struggle, it is definitely one of the source of our living, but the same money is also the root cause of all the evil; and for that money people would just do anything possible in their power. If i have to be in their game I should turn exactly, myself, into one of them, otherwise they wouldn't let me live and defeat me easily with their cunning tactics. No skill, no hardwork, no dedication would save us when we fall for the traps in their game unless we are lucky. And the same thing happened to me when I wanted to go with my sinceriety and hardwork, instead playing foul games tactfully like them.
It seemed like everything was going well for me at work in the beginning, then I came across a person who deemed to be a very good friend of mine. Slowly i started to trust her, which i was not supposed to have done. Because, the truth is we can't easily trust anyone in this world and no one can make a good friend at work except in a rare case. And just like in any other relationship one must be very careful in handling the so- called friends at work who could play smart with your secrets to trap you into their game and grab the success in just few easy steps. She always used to make me feel like she was the only well wisher and a person very concerned about me and my efforts at work. Once it so happened that i had some issues with my incentives and I knew that there must've gone something wrong with the calculations. I could have dealt the whole issue very smoothly in a peaceful manner, but she took that chance and provoked me that I always act like a dumb in cases like this when I am supposed to be assertive about the whole topic. The only mistake i did was litening to her instead my instincts and made things more complicated for myself at work. Management was definitely not so fair about the incentives which i came to know in the very beginning, but there was nothing i could have done about it; and being aggressive with them only got me more enemies at work but nothing else. Instead if i had gone with my instincts and played safe i would n't have to risk my job; i was almost was about to give up my job for that issue, but luckily my boss was good enough to save me for my past reputation. It was then i learnt that falling for provocation is more or less like endangering our life and one cannot make you feel inferior about yourself without your consent.


Provocation is the trap
we fall for so easy,
It just needs a reaction
from us.
But we must be careful
not to heed it.

25 comments:

  1. i could so relate to this post. there surely are many like your "friend" there. by the time we realize it takes such a long time & we end up wondering how cold we have been so naive in the first place?

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  2. the pics were really cute!! And those lines...
    rovocation is the trap
    we fall for so easy,
    It just needs a reaction
    from us.
    And we must be careful
    not to heed it.

    Wonderful!!

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  3. wow people at work will do anything to make you down

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  4. Its quite eerie but I have been in this same exact situation but I guess unlike you I did not had a very understanding boss hence due to that I had to leave my job. But I am definitely a wiser person now, and I am sure I will not repeat this same mistake in my future work places.

    It was really nice reading your blog...take care.
    Cheers!

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    1. Thank you Rashmi for stopping by and leaving your wonderful comment. Its sad to know that you had to leave your job when you had fallen for the trap, but am also glad to know that you've learnt from it now and turned more wiser to understand people better around you. Wish you all the best for your future endeavours.

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  5. Corporate world is filled with such people..when we come to office we have to forget whatever we learnt in school and do exactly opposite..

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  6. Hello Elivrah,

    A nice post..You successfully have written here your perspective about life..reading between the lines, I happened to notice that we have our outlooks for life somewhere similar, perhaps it may be about childhood, perhaps its about money, I'm not sure..

    Thanks for your visit and comment at my blog..and I find this blog terribly lacks one thing, yes, an About the Blogger section. i am very curious to know abt Elvirah..and I like to be a follower of your blog..

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    1. Hello Tom,

      I am glad to know that the post reflects my perspective about life which i wanted everyone to figure out and also understand my learnings from life's experiences. You are right i just never much concentrated on writing something about myself here which i would sure work on as per your request. Thank You.

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  7. Very well said! I like everything you stated on this post!

    Sometimes, we become victims of our own gullibility—we tend to easily trust people for a simply nice gesture. But I still want to believe that it's not wrong to trust people even if it could mean it could hurt me one day. As it takes sorrow to know happiness. But of course, we still have to be cautious—and know the extent of how much can you really take because you are right, no one can make you feel inferior without your consent. If you know you're the doing the right thing, then nothing to be feared about.

    Very thought provoking post! Good day Elvirah!

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    1. Ofcourse Cee, we can't live in this world without trusting someone. Trust is definitely important, but blind trust on someone could be harmful to us sometimes. Thanks for your beautiful and supporting words.

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  8. Well said!! I completely agree with your line "Money is the reason for our struggle, it is definitely one of the source of our living, but the same money is also the root cause of all the evil"

    Yes, for people who haunt behind the money, it would definitely comeback to them as evil. Money is not everything in this world. And handling betrayal is the hardest thing in life. It will be difficult to see people who turned against us/disguised as our well wisher!

    A nice read! And I love the title of your blog. "Life is an art" - 200% agree! :) Following you now! :)

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    1. Thank you Anand for following me here, i would sure come back to yours and follow you back.

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  9. I have been through a similar situation as you have. Totally agree with your words. People are selfish and they just want to pull someone down so that they could take their place. Over the years I have learnt to trust only my family and my closest friends and no one else, no matter how friendly they tend to be.

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  10. Very thoughtfully written and illustrated.

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  11. Games like this are the most difficult most of us will ever face. A nice person will have a devastating time dealing wth bad people at work.

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  12. It's hard to survive in today's world if we're innocent :) Lovely post..

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  13. I am beginning to get little nervous now, as I have recently joined and nearly after 2 months, I am beginning to confide the problems I am facing to a colleage who joined recently. But its true, corporate make you feel that hardwork and truthfulness is not required. Its all a matter of game, clever game, and how well you play to get your means done. As they procliams of good virtues, in relaity, they discourage its practices ..

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  14. Hi Elvirah,

    I don't know your nationality or which sector you are working on..so I will not be able to comment anything specific related to that...

    But, for my part, and my own experience, the situations which you describe here are almost everywhere. But, I hope that you learn from your experience and not repeat your mistakes...(at least not the same ones..) Despite the fact that the working environment is filled with people who are willing to take advantage of you, I am sure, there will also be good people around there...and over time, you will learn to see which ones are which and take a decision on whether to trust someone or not.

    The thing about money which you said earlier is true. What we have to remember is that there is no harm in owning money. But, problem occurs when money starts owning us. Wish you luck. :)

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  15. Hi Elvira;;
    what happens with you, is happened with me too, and I can easily relate with your situation..
    politics is a very dirty thing, you know, and all of us are well aware of this. some of us find it very useful and use it against us so that they can achieve what they wished..

    but believe me, those who do such things and harm others, never become happy in their personal lives..

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  16. I have been delaying entry into an industry or a corporate house and have been continuing on with academics for quite sometime. When I take the leap, I do not know what is in store for me and this post only compounds my fears. :(

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  17. 'one cannot make you feel inferior about yourself without your consent.' so true!

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    1. People can hurt us only if we allow them to. Its ok, if we get hurt for a few times initially because we learn from those experiences. And besides, if one is good, there is nothing to hide and hence nothing that the evil-perpetrators can do about!

      Destination Infinity

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